What can you do if your kids are not as helpful as you want them to be (and let’s face it, most kids aren’t)? The first thing that you need to do is stop asking them for help instead ask them “Who is willing to be a helper?”
The moment you stop asking them for help and you start asking them, “Who’s willing to be a helper?” you changed the form of the question from being about you to being about them instead. It’s not so much about your needing help but about them identifying as a helper which is more motivating to kids. It shows them a way to become more independent and grow their responsibility.
If I say, “Hey, are you willing to help me?” you might not want to help. To be fair, most times people don’t feel like helping, but they want to help people.
Whenever possible, it’s a good idea to say, “Look around for ways that you can be a helper.” instead of giving them a specific task. We offer them an opportunity to grow their kindness and their generosity and we are raising children who are willing to be of service to each other, which is ultimately what we want for our kids.
So, if you want your kids to help out more at home start asking them, “Are you willing to be a helper?” and stop asking them for help. An easy way to get more help!